Embrace Your Uncomfortable Zone the Easy Way: Watch Movies
I love movies. Personal-Growth movies are goldmines of inspirational and positive messages. You must dig through the plot to find the gems.
I’m here to help. So, grab some popcorn, and queue up this month’s personal-growth movie recommendation.
Break Free from Complacency.
“An object in motion stays in motion. An object at rest will stay at rest unless it’s acted upon by an outside force.” Newton’s first law of motion
Another way to look at Newton’s “outside forces” are as opportunities. Outside forces often come wrapped in change. Change is scary, some say. But discomfort offers opportunities for growth outside your comfort zone. We know this, but it’s difficult to step out of our boxes unless the lure seems worth it. Take every opportunity to be uncomfortable because it’s an opportunity for you to grow.
Watching movies makes this fun. Easy. You can share them with others, creating opportunities for closer connections. Movies open our minds to new ideas without asking us to do anything but watch.
The Fundamentals of Caring
A fantastic illustration of Newton’s law is the movie The Fundamentals of Caring, starring Paul Rudd, Craig Roberts, and Selena Gomez.
In this dark, yet light-hearted, road-trip comedy, Roberts plays Trevor. A wheelchair-bound teenager with muscular dystrophy, Trevor lives a life of hopeless, day-to-day routines.
Rudd plays Ben, a caregiver assigned to his first case with Trevor. Ben’s life has stalled after a family tragedy. Unable to forgive himself, Ben’s marriage has also fallen to pieces.
I recognize that, based on this setup, some of you may be saying, “Pass.” Stay with me…
Trevor’s single, loving mom is protective. She copes via rigid daily routines and schedules to ensure her son’s well-being for as long as possible. One of many “rules” means Trevor can’t leave the house or go anywhere except to the park on Thursdays.
The story becomes an epic road-trip adventure when Ben and Trevor talk Trevor’s mom into letting them travel. Their destination? The World’s Deepest Pit, one of several places on Trevor’s dream list of bizarre roadside attractions he never expects to visit.
Caregiver, Ben, takes the important first step by making a change in his own behavior. In doing so, he touches the life of Trevor and gets him moving too. Together, they affect Trevor’s mom who has become comfortable with the way things are. She too must let go of her rigid routines and embrace the possible value of rocking Trevor’s boat.
On the road, Trevor and Ben impact the lives of several people because of the positive effect of Ben’s decision to change.
The Snowball Effect
When you change, a snowball effect is set in motion. Your life, your circumstances, your routines, everything changes with you.
“Nothing changes until you change. Everything changes, once you change” – Julian Lennon
Even baby steps gain momentum. Physics takes over. The power of Newton is on your side. You pick up speed, absorbing the energy of others around you. Together, you grow bigger, faster, and stronger. Before you know it, you’re an unstoppable force.
Where is the World’s Deepest Pit?
Inspiring lessons about life are sprinkled throughout The Fundamentals of Caring.
The two main characters are stuck. They’ve fallen into a metaphorical pit of patterns, complacency, and comfortable habits.
We’ve all been there. But we can climb out. All it takes is a single step, a surge of energy.
Whether it’s inspiration or desperation (or a movie) that motivates us doesn’t matter. Nor does anything that has happened in our past. What happens after our first step is the miracle. And it’s all under our control.
Just as one wouldn’t draw a lasting conclusion about oneself based on a brief experience of indigestion, one needn’t do so based on how one has thought or behaved for vast stretches of time in the past. A creative change of inputs to the system—learning new skills, forming new relationships, adopting new habits of attention—may radically transform one’s life. ― Sam Harris, Free Will
Where to Watch
Currently, The Fundamentals of Caring is available to stream on Netflix.
Rating – MA
The disabled lead character, Trevor, is not a helpless victim. He’s a three-dimensional, flawed, and vulnerable character not defined by his disability. Trevor is an adolescent boy, unafraid to express sexual yearnings. While poignant, the film is a dark comedy. Its dry and sometimes foul-mouthed humor makes it best for mature teens and adults. Profanity and some sexual references account for the rating.